Why Divorce?

Why are so many marriages falling apart today? There are a thousand reasons given for this strange phenomenon that is occurring in the U.S. today. Did you know that the divorce rate in the U.S. is #1 in the Western World – not a race worth winning is it? So, here’s my theory on why marriages, especially in Christian households, are such a travesty in the U.S. My hubby and I got into an argument last night over schedules – his vs. mine. Ever have one of those boxing matches? MY calendar says THIS vs. I TOLD you what WE were doing tonight. Uggh. Then, the snide comments begin and it ends with slammed car doors, confused children and questioning thoughts on the part of mommy and daddy. Questions such as: “Why won’t he just listen to me?” or “Why does she think her way is the ONLY way?” or “Good grief Lord – I’m so tired of this – will you just teach that man how to take care of me the way I need?” Ding, ding, ding. That last one is the kicker. We think we’ve married the love of our life, our soul mate, our best friend. WRONG. The love of our lives, our soul mate, our best friend should be the lover of OUR soul – Jesus. When we put all those titles on mere men we are setting them (and ourselves) up for failure. We all do it – we’ve all said it and we must, as mature Christian women, stop this charade in order to bless our children with successful future marriages. Seriously, imagine if all your expectations, needs, wants and desires were put into the hands of the Creator who can do something with them?! Our world and the world around us would radically change because the right order would be in place. Imagine with me the freedom that your husband would find if you left GOD to deal with his “issues” while you go to Him in prayer about your “issues.” Wow. It’s a radical, yet simple thought. Let’s choose today sisters to focus on the PLANK that is in our own eye because you see, if you try to remove that plank all on your own you will die, but with the help and love of your Soul Mate, Best Friend, and Love of your Life it will get better. That man that lives in your house – expecting him to fix it all is like asking a baby to perform open heart surgery. Not gonna happen girlfriend – turn to Jesus – I think we all know what He can do with a broken heart.

Follow Me

One night, before Christmas, I awoke at 3 a.m. with a sense of dread and condemnation covering me. Approaching God seemed like the last thing I wanted to do because I felt guilty, insignificant, and not worthy of talking to him. Needless to say, this was an all out attack from the enemy of my soul. Nothing, other than my regular sinful ways, had occurred the day before to cause this feeling - I just felt like garbage in the sight of Jesus. So, I sucked in my breath and went against this feeling and began to pray. I begged God to forgive me, love me, accept me and peace began to fall and chase away that nasty, foul spirit plaguing me. Once I felt the peace, I heard His voice and it simply said, "follow Me." Those words have presented themselves over and over throughout the following weeks. I know that "Follow Me," is what Jesus told the disciples so I am assuming that is what He is saying to me. But ... I'm already a Christian and feel like I'm already a disciple so what does this mean for me. Hmmm ... I'm still figuring it out, but I think I have a bit of insight for myself and possibly others of you out there walking the walk. Following Christ means you cannot do this life without Him. Your vow to change, to be different, to pray more, to read your Bible more is worthless without His power. Open yourself up to follow Him. Think about this ... if your resolve could make you better, if your dedication to be a better person could get you closer to heaven then why in the world did Jesus die? If YOU could do it then why are you in such a mess? Follow Him and enjoy finding out what He means by that for your life.
Selah.